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Little Mashel Falls Trail

If you can make it to Pack Forest in Eatonville, WA, then you’re almost there. In fact, your GPS will say you are there. It’ll even say you’re at the trailhead. Which is where you want to be. Only you’ll look north, south, east, west and even under your car and realize that there is no trailhead sign.

Just a sign like this that can’t seem to make up its mind either.

But it’s here that the trail begins. On the 1000 Rd. heading north.

And it’s a road all right. A road we’ll follow for 1.8 miles before we tip toe through the mud on the actual trail.

A road that looks like this at the beginning…

And then after a while, still looks like this.

It’s green on both sides of us. And with the sun…wow.

This is the triangular intersection where we’ll veer left down the 1070 Road while the 1000 Road continues to the right.

Then from the 1070 we’re looking for this rock–the one spray painted “Falls.”

It’s obvious with the new gravel in places that the trail crews have hauled rock in to reinforce the trail. But where they haven’t, the mud nearly eats our shoes alive.

Not far past the muddiest spots, the trail heads down. Down, as in, when we turn around, we’ll be panting UP.

This is the first glimpse of the Lower Falls through the trees.

Probably the place where thousands of cameras have clicked.

But it definitely gets better.

Posted every 100 yards or more are signs on trees reminding hikers of the two fatalities in 2016.

Which doesn’t mean that this is a dangerous hike. But it can be. In fact, the warnings are enough for me to have the kids crouch down a moment while I see what’s up ahead.

Up ahead is this. Stairs leading down to the Lower Falls. Something we wouldn’t hesitate to take in the summer.

But we don’t test them out. The view is enough from where we are.

And I can imagine it only gets more stunning through the summer months.

Back up the trail a little ways is a spot where left-over wood pieces are piled.

One of us makes himself a chair.

And together we have lunch…

With a bit of a view.

By trail comparison, this isn’t a hard hike, but it is steep in the places where it heads directly down to the falls.

We could continue to the Middle and Upper Falls, but we don’t. We hike back in the direction we came until we reach the stream we crossed on our way down.

And it always begins like this. With him knelt down to make a dam. And her watching.

Until a minute lapses, and she’s knelt down, too.

And then it’s the two of them. And it’s not just his dam; it’s their dam.

She hunts down the next rock.

And he arranges.

Until the thing is done.

Or rather, it’s time to be movin’.

Which is what we do…

We put our feet back in motion.

And head South on the 1000 Rd.


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Sequalitchew Creek Trail

You might need a pronunciation guide for this trail–Se-qual-it-chew.

That, and a map to find DuPont.

Then, too, if you can catch the rarest thing in western Washington these days–a sunny, 45 degree morning–like we did, this is the place you want to be.

Because all that rain has to amount to something. Somewhere.

And here it is. Eighteen shades of green.

In every direction.

The creek running beside us is a symphony.

We can almost forget our car is parked a mile away on concrete surrounded by buildings.

It’s truly a leisurely, barely-slanted walk. I’m sure our driveway is steeper.

That hole there at the end…

Is a tunnel.

On the right side,though, is an old, unused set of tracks that leads directly to the wharf.

Might as well try to walk on them.

Ten feet from the tunnel is this view. The DuPont wharf.

The whole thing is measured in feet. 36 feet wide by 300 feet long.

And those rocks…yeah…forget about sneaking up on anyone. Crunch. Crunch.  Our shoes left craters at each step.

But golly, it’s pretty.

And it’s windy.

Which is why we’re already headed back through the tunnel again…

To watch our third train go by.

And to count its cars.

Then it’s a mosey back the way way we came.

Until 3.1 miles from start to finish, the trickle of the creek is just a memory, and we’re closing our car door again.


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At First Sight

I crossed the contact lens threshold when I was ten. I hadn’t worn glasses previously. I hadn’t known my vision was leaking out of one eye faster than the other. I just knew that the volunteer eye chart ladies at our elementary school had made notes by my name when I messed up on which direction the E’s were facing. And that before fifth grade had finished, I was wearing one contact lens in my right eye. Just one.

I loved my parents for this. Loved that they reasoned through the practicality of glasses and shook their heads, knowing how quickly a pair of frames would be broken with a brother like mine.

By seventh grade, I had contacts in both eyes. And by the time I was thirty, I’d been wearing lenses for 20 years.

It’s glasses that are new to me.

And yet, glasses are all my daughter has ever known. The first, brown tiny frames from Costco when she was eight. The second, slightly bigger pair that tied her over for two more years. And this last pair, ordered online with an old prescription–frames that hide 2/3 of her face and slip completely off when she does a cartwheel in the living room.

It’s contacts that are new to her. And everything about contacts.

Which is why she’s here in Dr. Toepfer’s office, trying to get her finger even close enough to touch her eyeball.

And why just when she thinks she’s got it…

She’s got to start all over.

I wonder if she’ll miss her bumbly frames. Or if, perhaps, she’ll treasure them more like a favorite blanket too old, too familiar, to throw away.

For now, though, I watch as she unconsciously pushes them up on her nose–glasses she’s not even wearing.

Welcome to contacts, Love!


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I was 12 and a half on the day I got my ears pierced at the Wenatchee Valley Mall. Six months ahead of promised. And a complete surprise.  A surprise mostly because my parents didn’t do things like walk into a jeweler’s to pierce ears ahead of schedule. And, because my mom, especially, wasn’t a spontaneous spender. But there I was, not even thirteen, with my ears pierced.

Last Saturday, at the old Supermall in Auburn, which is now not the Supermall but the new Outlet Collection, Troy and I and the kids roamed from store to store. We hadn’t come for ear piercing. We hadn’t even planned to come to the mall except that we were near it. Which was as good as having plans.

And then because the store that used to be Claire’s was piercing someone’s ears at the moment we were walking by and because Raven who was six days from her 13th birthday asked nonchalantly when she could get her ears pierced, we found ourselves inside the store that is not Claire’s looking at earrings that did more than clip on the back of the ear.

More specifically, we found ourselves here…

Or rather, six feet from here, tottering from foot to foot…

Breathing sparingly until this face…

Turned to this face.

Then behind us we saw this guy. Who lowered his head and asked in private whispers if he could buy these hoops for his sister. He patted his wallet. “I know she’d really like them,” he said.

And that’s the thing–she will. She’ll love them.

But mostly she’ll love the brother whose heart wanted her to have them.

And–she’ll remember being at the old Supermall, turning almost thirteen.


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What it Costs

Silas is a mix of snot and fumbled fingers. His wad of toilet paper in his front pocket is at the ready for when frustration signals his nose to run. Or for when his brain says, “enough,” and I’ve asked him to try one more time. He can catch the tears there, too.

I’m in my usual seat, to his left, sharing the piano bench that is big enough for his whole bottom and most of mine. For fifteen minutes I coax him to read yesterday’s notes, last year’s notes, today’s new notes. Only he doesn’t remember what they look like. I point at each note with my finger, moving it up and down like an elevator as the notes raise and lower, but his fingers still guess at what he thinks I want him to play. This key? No, this key? The notes are black ink on a white page—a tangle of same-looking squiggles.

I count one-two-three, one-two-three over and over again and ask Silas to move his lips with mine. He tells me that it’s easier for him if he doesn’t count. I insist. And we start the measure over. Then we start it again. And then again.

We are three years in. His pressing the keys on the piano with stiff, flat fingers. His lips quivering as he guesses at the notes on the page like a blind man. His shoulders slumping in personal defeat.

But eventually Silas’s ear learns the notes. His eyes memorize his hand positions and his fingers play the songs in rhythm from beginning to end. He does not look at his music, does not, cannot read the notes. Cannot identify middle C on the treble clef where it has sat for centuries and where it will sit tomorrow. But he is making music.

Alone at the piano, Silas’s fingers curve around chords. He pounds the keys rhythmically, fluidly, even, his full nine-song repertoire spilling out of his fingertips without pause. His head and upper body sway like a virtuoso and his face and eyes shine.

His simple songs reverberate within me, too. I anticipate the next piece as the one before it finishes. I chop and dice onions to the beat. I know where he has skipped a note or when he’s added a measure that wasn’t there. I holler unheeded help from the kitchen.


At his recital, we watch as Silas scoots to the edge of the piano bench. We wait as he finds the keys where his fingers should start. And then we listen, giddy in the moment, as he plays every practiced note as if it cost him nothing.

My mother-in-law leans in, her jaw half-way down. “I can’t believe how well he played,” she whispers. Her surprise is genuine.

I nod. Nod and smile and clap, proud of my boy.

Proud of us.


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Jesus Wept

When I asked Silas about his craft, he shrugged.

“They wanted us to write a Bible verse on the outside,” he says.

There are two words written on his jar.

“Is that why yours says, ‘Jesus wept?’” I ask. Which is what Jesus might do looking at this jar with green and gold glitter clinging to the inside, a fake candle in the bottom and the J of Jesus heading right instead of left. Weep.

“It was the shortest verse I could think of, “he says. Then, like he’s letting me in on a secret, he adds “all my friends wrote it on their jars, too.”

My body language is caught off guard. I’m not sure whether to laugh out loud or be appalled out loud. I can imagine a dozen jars on a dozen counters all reminding us that Jesus wept.

Which is true. The Bible records in John 11:35 the shortest verse, “Jesus wept.”

What my boy may not remember from the story is that Jesus’s friend Lazarus has just died. His sisters, Mary and Martha, had sent word for Jesus to come. Before Lazarus’s death.  Both sisters separately say to Jesus upon his arrival, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”

And they know this because Lazarus’s death began with a sickness. And they know that Jesus healed the sick. Surely had he been there he would have healed Lazarus.

But Jesus didn’t hurry to Lazarus. The Bible says, “Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. So when he heard that Lazarus was sick, he stayed where he was two more days,and then he said to his disciples, “Let us go back to Judea.”

He knew—Jesus knew Lazarus was sick and still he waited. We might say Jesus over-waited. By the time Jesus reaches Lazarus, Lazarus is dead. As in four-days-in-the-tomb dead.

But what Mary and Martha and all those watching didn’t know was that Lazarus’s death didn’t catch Jesus by surprise. It wasn’t an oopsie. Jesus knew—as fully God—that he would raise Lazarus from the dead to the glory of God his Father.

And yet, as fully man, Jesus wept, as he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled.

Jesus. Wept.


I’ve been catching glimpses of Silas’s craft jar out of my peripheral at every meal for two weeks. And the profoundness of the simple words on its side are only now settling. Maybe they’re unsettling.

We ask, “where was Jesus when…?” And we fill in the blank with our nightmares of life. Cancer. Death. Rape. Betrayal. Depression.

“Lord, if only you had been here…”

And I wonder if it isn’t like Lazarus–that Jesus wasn’t late. Isn’t late. That our story contains the same short sentence, “Jesus wept.”

I wonder, too, if like Mary and Martha, our final refrain isn’t John 11:35.  But rather a sure hope in Jesus’s promise for those who believe.

“Did I not tell you,” Jesus says to Martha, “that if you believe, you will see the glory of God?”

If you believe…then you will see..

It’s a promise for all of us. A promise we can believe in, put our hope in.


Even when we weep.


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Silas is looking at me from across the table. His elbows pinch the bowl of turkey soup in front of him while his eyes roll in disinterest. The nachos he wolfed 30 minutes earlier haven’t left room for anything else except boredom. Which is why his soup bowl is bobbing three quarters full. And why he has time to stare at me.

“Mom,” he starts, “right below the ripples under your eyes…”

But he doesn’t finish—can’t finish before we’ve all looked up from our spoons. “Ripples?”

“Yeah,” he says. “The place right here.” He is rubbing his pointer fingers under both eyes, massaging the bags and creases he doesn’t have. Ripples.


If Silas has more to say, we never hear it. Troy and I are too busy comparing ripples.

“My,” he says, “you must not have slept well.”

“How can you tell?” I ask.

“Well, according to the ripples under your eyes…”

Snort. Right.

It is the word “fart” reinvented. And we are five. Unable to not use “ripples” in every sentence hereafter.

But. I wonder…who wouldn’t rather have ripples than bags?


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Second Chances

It was the August I was sixteen. Five months from the springtime when I’d passed my driver’s test with an 82, a score nobody really brags about. Then or now. Stick shift or not.

Of the four of us kids, only Sara and I were still at home and available to make the dwindling family water-skiing trip to Walla Walla with my aunt and uncle on the Snake River.

My aunt and uncle never had kids of their own. Not that we didn’t wonder why. Our relationship was never such that we could ask them. You just didn’t ask Aunt Nancy stuff she didn’t want to answer.

That my aunt and uncle had a boat still confounds me. They lived in the same pale green rambler together for fifty years on a piece of land that smelled like sweet onions when we drove into town. We learned after their deaths that they never threw a scrap of anything away. Miles of junk with zero potential was discovered stacked in their garage and shed. They wore their clothes out. When we stayed at their house as kids, we slept in red sleeping bags on their living room floor and woke up feeling as though we’d curled up on concrete.

I don’t remember my uncle ever saying “I love you.” Not with his words. But he sat in that boat hour after hour every August dragging us through the water on wooden, homemade skis, smiling at us from the driver’s seat, and perpetually sweeping a hand over his bald spot to keep the hair he’d grown extra-long on the sides to cover it from flying away. One hand on the wheel. One hand catching his hair.

My aunt dished out tough love. But that woman held our ten year old and eight year old bodies between her knees as we drifted with the tug of the ski rope that first August. And then when we’d face plant into the river and swallow most of it, she’d swim to us twenty yards from the shore and start all over. And then she’d do it again. Until every summer after that we’d didn’t need her hanging on to the backs of our swimsuits or gripping our floating bodies with her knees. We just needed the invitation to water ski.

Which is what we were doing the August I was sixteen. Coming to ski.

From Wenatchee, the trip to Walla Walla is three and half hours. It’s the same distance on the way home—only the time feels compounded in the mind and body after a day on the water. Much of the driving is on two-lane highways with 55 mph signs posted. It feels faster to walk.

I was at the wheel on our way home. My mom beside me. And Sara in the back.

When I fell asleep.

A second really. A few at most. But as I grabbed the wheel to correct from the oncoming cars, I swung us too far toward the ditch. And to avoid the ditch, I swung us toward the oncoming cars again. We flung from one side of our seats to the other for ten seconds? twenty? as I over-wobbled, over-corrected from the double yellow lines to the ditch a dozen times.

From our spot on the shoulder we were all awake. Sara was bawling. My mom was quiet. The car was parked. I’d made a move to get out of the driver’s seat, when my mom spoke.

“Start the engine again, Jeanne. There’s a rest stop a couple of miles ahead. I’d like you to drive us there.”


It’s this gift that I haven’t forgotten–the second chance. And I haven’t forgotten my mom’s insistence that I take it. Right now. The very next opportunity. Drive. Yes you. Make a new memory. I trust you.

But it all came to mind today when I deliberately handed Silas the bacon. A second time.


Earlier this week, Silas had stood faithfully on the cement in the 43 degree drizzle. He’d babysat the bacon with two forks while it sizzled on the griddle over the grill flame. I’d waved from the kitchen window and he’d gestured something I couldn’t understand. But mostly he’d flipped and flopped the bacon, sampling the quality as he went, until he had all of it—all the bacon side-by-side on a plate.

In an hour’s time, he’d never left his post. And yet the platter of bacon he set down on the table was completely torched. Soot black. Every crumb.

There were limited options—toss or chomp the stuff like hard candy. We chomped.



Silas stood for an hour again, a sentry at the griddle. He twisted and turned the bacon halves with forks. He checked and re-checked the doneness, and then checked it again with Troy’s help. Our lunch assets were looking good.

So here it is…Here’s to new bacon memories.

And here’s to saying what really matters, when it matters… “We trust you, son. You’re worth a second chance!”



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Learning From the Best

Five months before I’d turned forty, I’d made an appointment with Susan at Sephora.

I was desperate. I didn’t want to look forty when I was forty.

I was hoping Susan could help.

Susan introduced me to primers. Eyelash primers, eye shadow primers. Stuff that goes on your face before you put the actual other stuff on your face. I’d had no idea. Susan started talking slower…

Nearly an hour later, sticker shock finished me off. Surely I didn’t need a $16 eye pencil sharpener. Or a $22 eye pencil. Or mascara primer. Did I? Susan looked at me like I was a toddler trying to run away without my pants. She said she thought she could find me an eye pencil sharpener for $12.  And I’d said, “okay.”

I knew now why we talked an awful lot about inner beauty. It was cheaper.

Before Christmas this year Raven started asking about makeup. Would I buy her some? Could we look at some? Could we talk about buying some? I stuttered to make a complete sentence. “Uh…yeah,” I’d told her. “We could do that.” But then I wondered who the “we” was that I’d just volunteered.

When I was in the seventh grade, I was buying blue Cover Girl eye liner and Bonne Belle lip gloss from Payless with my own money. What makeup wisdom did I have for Raven?

I didn’t take Raven to Sephora or Ulta or even Rite Aid. But her heart swooned as though I had when she unwrapped a makeup kit for Christmas. “Practice all you want,” I’d said. “This is a safe place.” I’d pointed at each of us in the living room, and we’d grinned like her biggest fans. She’d nodded and disappeared into the bathroom.

Silas reported how it was going. “Raven needs some help.”

We waited.

Raven walked from the bathroom, four years older than she’d gone in.

We smiled. We offered suggestions. Like maybe the cat eyes could be less cattish.

She smirked in agreement. Disappeared again. This time with Silas.

And then, dear me, I witnessed this.

And then I got a hold of myself when I saw this.

“She’s in good hands,” I thought. “Maybe the best.”


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Mom Bodies

I brought my mom body to Great Wolf Lodge. Ooched a swimsuit over the parts of me that didn’t quite tuck in neatly anymore. And watched as my kids abandoned their clothing like they were fleeing a fire.

“You coming, mom?” Silas squealed. He was barefoot and halfway in the hallway, the rest of his clothing still falling out of the air. Raven was getting one last sideways look at herself in the mirror over the sink.

I sucked in a lungful. “Yes,” I declared. “I’m coming.”

I adjusted the padding in my swimsuit in the event I got it wet. Then I slid a pair of pants over my suit in the event I never got wet. “You never could tell,” I told myself.

The 84 degree temps in the GWL waterpark enveloped us like a hug. I could almost part with my pants on my first breath. The kids skittered into the wave pool and I plunked into a chair to watch them.

But I mostly I just watched the moms.

Moms with teeny kids; moms with six kids, hovering moms, nursing moms, loud moms, cautious moms, knitting moms, book-worm moms. All here-in-a-swimsuit moms.

GWL isn’t a catwalk, I reminded myself. Or a California beach.

It’s a place for every mom.

A place where timid, skinny moms can pace the sidelines. Where bigger moms in tented dress skirts carry babies in life jackets bubbled up past their necks.

It’s a place for moms in black suits, suits with prints, t-shirts and jean-short suits. For moms in swim skirts–skirts to the knees, skirts to the thighs, skirts clinging to the back of the leg.  For moms in strapless bikini tops, halter tops, long-sleeve tops that hide it all.

For moms with big boobs, sag-to-your-belly-button boobs, boobs like deflated balloons. For moms with cleavage and moms with none. For boobs tucked in, boobs pushed up, and boobs playing peek-a-boo. It’s a place for flat chests, tattooed chests, grandmotherly chests, bouncy chests.

For big bottoms, wide bottoms, bottoms with dimples, svelte bottoms. Bottoms like buses. Bottoms covered in dresses like they’re headed to church. Bottoms skirted, bikinied, scrunched into shorts.

For moms with rounded stomachs, moms with flat stomachs, moms with droopy, post-partum stomachs. Moms with hands crossed over their stomachs, moms with children sitting on their stomachs. Stomachs sucked in. Stomachs left out.

Moms in their mom bodies.

Could there be a more beautiful thing?


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